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Seems like every time I meet a girl from an online dating venture for the very first time, there is this split-second look of disappointment… maybe not even disappointment exactly, but you can tell that I don’t look exactly as she envisioned in her mind’s eye. Not that it really matters, because shortly she’ll warm-up to me as if we hadn’t even met online. It’s just funny to me. Sure, there will always be a few people who are hung-up on physical disparities and can’t get beyond it (maybe that’s why they never have any luck) but to most it is a passing thought.
Another first date tonight. Another girl I want to see again. She was a little hard to read also, the non-verbal stuff wasn’t as much of a dead giveaway as with some women I’ve dated. Could have been nervousness. The nervous jitters don’t really affect me any more… probably because I’ve learned to detach myself from the outcome and just take things for what they are, becoming less “desperate” and more of the laid-back, smart, funny guy that women want. I want to learn more about her, but physically she’s totally what I go for. Older than me as well.
Tomorrow night the interior designer is cooking me dinner and we’re making it a Blockbuster night. It appears that I won’t be able to do the same with the physical therapist until next Friday or Saturday, but maybe I’ll see her at the marathon. The actress seems to be too busy lately, so I’m considering a demotion (or maybe just being friends with her altogether) and replacing her with the girl from tonight. I never did meet the girl who works at the zoo and honestly at this point I really don’t care if I ever will… the initial “oomph” is gone.
After a successful third date on Tuesday with interior designer, we move along to Thursday night. Initially I was going to spend the evening with the lovely physical therapist, however, her mother decided to visit this week and spend the evening with her tonight. She called me Wednesday afternoon to inform me of this revelation, citing that she didn’t want to deal with the intensive Q&A that would arise if she told her Mom that she had a date. I could tell she felt badly about canceling and wanted to reschedule ASAP.
So we’re going out tomorrow night instead. It’s Luke’s birthday, but he doesn’t seem too gung-ho about turning 26. We shall dine at Chow Baby on Howell Mill. Has anyone eaten there before? I’ve been to the whole stir-fry/Madarin grill sort of restaurant before in Kansas so I know what to expect. I’ll thoroughly enjoy it, I just hope she will and isn’t a finicky eater. Can’t stand that, personally. My brother and father are like that.
So with a free Thursday evening, I whipped-out my cell phone and called the theater girl who I have wanted to meet for quite some time now. We got a late drink at Front Page tonight… which turned into a three hour first date. I’m getting quite good at those. Unlike last week’s first date, I want to see her again soon. I see a lot of my ex in this girl, but I’m trying to decide if she possesses the good qualities or the bad ones.
Now you may be asking: “RA, it’s March Madness… what kind of heterosexual man would date a time like this?!?” I’ll admit, I was a little upset when I left the house during halftime of the Duke game and returned to see the final score. But last time I checked, Greg Paulus neither smells nice nor wants to make out with me. And he’s kinda flat-chested… not that I care about that sort of thing.
I had another “first date” last night. It was difficult, because I’ve already met two girls that I like and want to date… do I really need to add a third? We made plans over a week ago, so I felt like the respectful thing to do would be to go on the date. Read the rest of this entry »
Tonight I went on my third “first date” from Eharmony, this time with the physical therapist. I really didn’t know what to expect going into the date. Even though I spoke to her on the phone for nearly an hour, I still didn’t have a good feel for her personality. It seemed like she was a combination of being really shy/reserved and having a dry, sarcastic sense of humor. I’ve always felt that online dating is backwards. The things you find out before you agree to meet are what most people discuss during a first date. Read the rest of this entry »
The date last night went well. She was late, but bought a round to make up for it. The weather was perfect, Front Page wasn’t crowded, and before we knew it we had talked for more than 2 hours. Great chemistry, interested in learning more about me, remembered things I had mentioned in previous conversations.
I had agreed to meet a friend of mine for dinner about 9:30 way down in Peachtree City. But since we both seemed to be enjoying ourselves, I suggested we bounce and get some food. We walked up the street to Savage Pizza (my favorite pizza joint in the city) and got a calzone. I still wanted to hang out with my friend before it got too late, so I shoveled my food down like I hadn’t eaten in a week… they were closing at 10, so that’s my excuse.
Walked back to her car, kissed her like a good boy, then actually had to return a missed call from a different match. I love having a “stable.” It helps take the edge off and ease my perceived need to impress. The downside is that it can get expensive.
Tonight I’m grilling and playing Wii. :)
In case you’re wondering, yes, I’ll call her tomorrow.
Last night I met-up with Tricia and her college buddy Rachel at Brewhouse Cafe in L5P for trivia night. (Me <== Trivia Buff) I managed to get Luke to finally come with me. It’s so hard to convince him to come out, but we’re young… live it up.
So at “halftime,” our team was tied in 4th place after only missing one question about the Brooklyn Dodgers. Then we got greedy and started relying too much on our smartphones and Google, which bit us in the ass and saw us in last place.
So I have a date from Eharmony who gave me her phone number without solicitation and suggested we get together. I appreciate the assertiveness and cutting through the bullshit, but I really don’t know much about this girl. So I’m leaning towards my old-faithful Match.com date scenarios… we meet at a bar and if I’m not feeling it (or vice versa) after one drink then I’ve got an out. Tricia and Rachel couldn’t understand why I would want an easy escape route… like I’m more concerned with what I’ll do if we don’t like each other than if we actually click, going into it with an expected negative outcome. Makes sense. I think it just comes down to how little I know about this girl despite going through Eharmony’s barrage of close and open ended questioning.
If I knew more about her, I’d be more willing to do a more eventful or fun date. The most successful date I ever had from Match.com involved me picking a girl up at her apartment and going to Dave & Busters one weeknight. I only decided on that after I had committed time swapping emails and a couple of phone calls.
I’ve been speaking with a different match from Eharmony for a little over a week, mostly via texting, and we’re going to do something Saturday. She lives in Athens. I dunno how I feel about dating a girl who lives in Athens. As of now, I told her to see if any good bands are playing saturday night and I’ll make the trip. Last time I went out with a girl from Athens, we met at the county fair in Marietta. If I told this girl we could do something half-way between… what would that be? Mall of Georgia? How high school is that?
Another girl is new to the city, less than a year, and works so much she hasn’t really gotten out to meet and see and do. So taking her out will be easy. Anything is win except the Clermont Lounge.
