Did Anybody Else Feel That?

As I mentioned in my last post, my ex and I are trying it again and I’m going into it with cautious optimism. “But Andy, what about the other girls you were dating and what of Eharmony?” you must be asking.

Apparently getting back together with your ex sends shockwaves of bad karma through your dating life.

The physical therapist broke a date with me for this past Wednesday night… one that she instigated. If you remember, she wanted to see each other friendly/casually and I agreed, so when she asked me out to dinner I knew she wasn’t bullshitting me. I was annoyed because I told her that I wouldn’t be finished at work until 6:30 and wouldn’t be free until 7. She’s texting to see where I am and eventually asks to reschedule before I even get to my car… on grounds that she’s hungry now so she started fixing herself dinner and wanted to be in bed early. Let’s see if she makes this up.

I hadn’t seen the interior designer for nearly two weeks; she took a vacation and I invited her to my birthday extravaganza the following weekend. She didn’t make it, but wanted to give me a “birthday surprise” last Sunday. (Something tells me it wasn’t balloon animals)

I felt like poo, so declined and we agreed on today (Friday). She texted me Wednesday afternoon to cancel, so I called when my plans fell through for that night. It was then that she informed me that she doesn’t want to see me anymore outside of friendship. I had just been flaked on, so I wasn’t in the mood to discuss our inadequacies as partners. My belief is that if you want out, you’re out… no discussion necessary. I just said, “Okay. I’m not looking to jump into a relationship now anyway. Bye.” Totally caught me off guard. Ever notice that many relationships have a see-saw effect: one person is more interested/attracted/invested than the other? I was the latter. We saw each other for about a month. Nothing serious, but I honestly believe there was potential. I have no clue what caused her to change her tune all of the sudden, but my brother’s theory is that a cold shudder went up her spine as soon as I agreed to start seeing J again. (Kind of like when you stick an icecube down the back of your beloved’s pants… how about that for foreplay?)

I’ve still got another couple of weeks on Eharmony. The last couple of women I’ve gotten to the email stage with fizzled out, as I really wasn’t interested in dating more than a couple of women. So I’ll work through my new matches and see if any interest me. That sounds so bad – I’m sure all of these women are awesome people in reality, they just do a terrible job of being engaging in a personals ad. Apparently I am halfway through a free one month subscription to Chemistry. Glad they let me know that I was getting a free month. Those matches are generally just God-awful.

Lately I’ve been really focused on work; looking for a new job and picking-up event hours whenever/wherever I can. New biz isn’t coming like I expected. I spent the past three days at the airport meeting VIPs at the arrivals gate and escorting them to their ride. Easy, mind-numbing, standing-intensive work but the pay is fantastic. Let’s put it this way, I almost paid my car bill in less than 20 hours.

Today I interviewed at an interactive new media advertising agency near Ga Tech and I feel that it went well, with my agency background being a huge plus in my column. I Facebook’ed the girls who interviewed me and laughed when I saw they not only graduated after me (UGA, go figure), but are my younger brother’s age. No doubt we’ll have our fair share of happy hours together.

PS – For those of you that realized that the picture above is of the Transformer, Shockwave, you have earned a beer on me.

A Tough Call

I had another “first date” last night. It was difficult, because I’ve already met two girls that I like and want to date… do I really need to add a third? We made plans over a week ago, so I felt like the respectful thing to do would be to go on the date.